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In the Intensive Care Unit (ICU), before the soul’s departure from its body, the family is initially and naturally steeped in hope. I believe hope is our primary defense from grief and pain. We all clinged onto hope of recovery, even those like me who think with our heads much more than our heart. The measure of hope could be a drop, a pond, or an ocean; it waxed and waned over the minutes and hours; it pivoted sharply with the patient’s breath, gasp, or grip. We clinged to that belief, be it big or small, that our loved one will walk out of the hospital. 


For those with both drops or volumes of faith, God was a focal point in this step. Hope (and prayer) are massive anchors in this time of need when all you really have is yourself and your thoughts. Yet, as some of us turn to God and pray, we should understand that faith is harder for someone with long-term underlying conditions or the younger patients. Yes, miracles can and do happen. We may know of those that deny death. They walk out of hospice, having been diagnosed with strokes, heart and kidney failure, but no longer needing medication or dialysis. For those with faith, these miracles are ascribed to God and in turn feeds more hope and confidence in prayer. 


But I wonder how many of those types of miracles are ascribed to those that had long-term serious issues or were over 75. The 2020 pandemic taught us more about comorbidities. 


Certainty

But if your loved one is not destined for that miracle, for whatever unfathomable reason, we may proceed on the continuum to certainty. It can take over our essence slowly or quickly depending on the tension between gut and brain. As we pull ourselves tot his next step, we focus on remembering the cherished moments. Yet, we cannot forget the health conditions—the pain, and suffering that was endured. Hope and certainty are not binary light switches. They are more of a phased dimmer switch with surges. We get surged with waves of hope, again. We question and question and question. What if they had done this? What if we had done that? What if the doctors made a mistake?*




What do others say? "Galeeb Kachra truly is one of a kind. A unique combination of optimism, can-do determination and relentless energy, he has the wiliness and moral integrity required to shake up sclerotic systems and sweep away logjams." (Michela Wrong, 2021)

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